You’re more valuable than you think. Don’t feel like you have to change your approach if someone says, “No.” If you get rejected by someone from the opposite sex – you don’t need to change your clothes, you don’t need to do anything different – just keep going up to them and trying again. Mind you, groom yourself and try to showcase that you are high status and have the 6 attraction triggers, but don’t feel like you need to change YOU. Don’t get bummed, seriously, don’t get upset at people who say no to you. It’s super important. Health, wealth, humor, social intuition, pre-selection, status, confidence, being a challenge, being a leader of men, and a protector of loved ones. You should only really be worried about the attraction switches for the first 20 minutes or so. By then, you should know enough about her that you can be a bit more targeted. Remember the first one who sets the value of themselves is how the game is played. Value is inherent; if you don’t have it, you’re going to give yourself away in hundreds of little tells and no amount of verbal trickery is going to make up for that lack. The more you have to tell others about how high-status you are, the less you actually have. If someone yells at you or accuses you of something, you remain emotionally indifferent. Not only should you be non-reactive to other people, but also to the situation. If you are in a stressful environment, you stay calm. If problems occur, you do not become bitter or angry
Here is one of the greatest truths in life: If you don’t place a value on yourself, somebody else will. How do you get the best deal, the finest advantage, or the greatest edge in anything? Here’s how: Ask for the moon and settle for the stars. In the previous chapter we talked about gaining leverage in relationships. But when you’re in a relationship of any sort,you want to invoke the power of this law to give you the ultimate edge.Almost everything in life is subjective. This means that there is no absolute truth and opinions tend to become facts in most new situations. All other information is then filtered through this new belief structure. If you want to give yourself,or anything for that matter, instant worth, you need to create the right image. In negotiations start off very high, even if it’s a little unreasonable. This is important because you will have set the tone. (Bear in mind, you also don’t want to be ridiculously high, because you want to be taken seriously.) Whenever you are dealing with someone or something of unknown value the first one who places a value on it establishes its worth. To be clear, when we speak of the value of a person, we mean the perceived value to others, not, of course, the individual’s value as a human being. Therefore, value is an unknown quantity whose perception can be altered with the application of two specific psycho-logical principles.
Building a (high value) social circle
For arguments sake, let’s pretend you don’t have a decent social circle to hang out with. Here’s how to get things moving and really lay the foundations for a social circle that will dominate.
- Get a role model and hang out with them – You’ll want to befriend a role model who seems cool and obviously gets laid. They should be easy to spot in high end clubs and bars. Once you find a guy, you must learn from them and adopt their qualities. Be a sponge around them and you will start to see a change in your own game.
- Be open to making more male friends, cool fashionable guys – Say what?! Meet guys, are you crazy! Nope, you really do need to open up to meeting cool guys that will introduce you to new girls and other cool guys. So the next time you see a guy that gets a lot of attention from women or hangs around near you, don’t be a dick… be sociable and befriend them.
- Make more female friends, be more sociable and don’t always try to be romantic with them – If you have a social circle full of guys, that just looks weird. One hot girl who is a friend, could set you up with 3 of her friends… with no real game involved.
Picking the right venues
Now we have the foundations in place, you’ll need to start sussing out the venues which not only have the hottest women, but also the richest guys. There’s a handful in every major city, so get searching.
- Research the top bars and clubs, make sure you invite beautiful women and cool guys, become familiar with key people like promoters and mangers, invite other women over to your table, and connect with influencers… this is how you create a high status atmosphere when you’re out at a venue. Also there’s this thing called Peacocking. Peacocking means dressing for attention. Just like Peacock’s use their feathers to get a mate.
- Identify the right people – By now you will have met five or so promoters and one or two managers. At this point you need to spot the guys who seem like high rollers and who know other high rollers. Befriend these guys, contact them outside the club and build a friendship with them.
- Offer something of value to influencers – Be in the know so you can get invites to top events. To do this you must offer value to the influencers, invite them to venues where you’ve made new friends, just basically offer them value so that they know you’re not some chump.
- Get in with the wealthy guys and connect them with girls – With every club you go into, you should always connect with the rich guys in there by approaching them, making small talk and then saying you have a bunch of girls with you that are great fun. Then get the girls over to the table by saying your friend has bought too much champagne and needs help with it.
So that pretty much sums up social circle mastery. It’s definitely not for every guy, only the guys who enjoy going out partying and don’t mind the stereotypical characters you get in these types of venues. What you do with this level of influence is up to you, but to not have it closes many doors that could be open to you – potential romantic relationships, lifelong friends, and business partnership are all things that can come out of this, don’t discount the night world, go out and make friends.
